THE MARKS OF MATURITY (from Tim Elmore)
1. A mature person is able to keep long-term commitments. JAMES 1:2-4
- This is the ability to delay gratification.
- They can do this even when the commitment is no longer new, novel or they “don’t feel like it.”
2. A mature person is unshaken by flattery or criticism. GALATIANS 1:10
- As they mature, they find that nothing is as good as it seems and nothing is as bad as it seems.
- They can accept compliments and critiques without letting it ruin them.
- They are secure in their identity.
- They take responsibility for their actions.
3. A mature person possesses a spirit of humility. LUKE 14:11; ROMANS 12:3
- Humility parallels maturity – this is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less!
- Mature people are not concerned with drawing attention to themselves.
- Mature people accept the fact that they don’t know everything.
- They give honor to others who have helped in their success.
- They give honor to their Creator who gave them talent and potential.
4. A mature person’s decisions are based on character, not feelings. 2 TIMOTHY 2:22
- Mature people live by values and principles that guide their decisions.
- They progress beyond merely reacting to life’s options.
- They are pro-active, understanding that emotions are important, but that their character is master over their emotions.
5. A mature person expresses gratitude consistently. PSALM 118:24; COLOSSIANS 3:17
- They see the big picture and realize how good they have it.
- They don’t presume that they deserve everything good that happens to them.
6. A mature person knows how to prioritize others before themselves. PHILIPPIANS 2:3; ROMANS 12:10
- The ability to get past one’s desires and consider the needs of others is a powerful indicator of maturity.
- Their agenda revolves around others, not self.
7. A mature person seeks wisdom before acting. ROMANS 1:21-23; JAMES 1:5
- They are teachable. They don’t presume to have all the answers.
- The wiser they get, the more they realize the need for more wisdom.
- They aren’t ashamed of asking for counsel from friends, colleagues and most importantly, God.